Research dating before marriage
Kuperberg says it's unwise to either move in or get married before the age of 23.But other family experts say that's lowballing it.The average age of marriage across the United States for the same time period was 23.6 for women and 25.8 for men*, so the men and women in this sample were 3 to 3.5 years older on average at the time of marriage.I suppose the relatively high average age of marriage in the sample would explain a curious personal experience that I once had that has never been repeated at other weddings I’ve attended.But a spate of new studies looking at cohabitation, as it's called, are starting to refine those results.A paper in the April issue of the but presented early to the Council on Contemporary Families says that past studies have overstated the risk of divorce for cohabiting couples.
This is much longer than the 2 year relationship “trial period” suggested by some theorists.
It’s possible to have a happy marriage regardless of how long you dated, according to Ted Huston, a professor of human ecology and psychology based at the University of Texas.
Huston has dedicated the past 15 years of his life to studying the significance of courtship in relation to marital success.
Ted Huston, a leading researcher on transitions in relationships, marriage and parenthood, followed couples for 13 years starting in 1979.
He states in his study that happily married couples dated for approximately 25 months before getting married. Couples who were unhappily married soon after they said “I do” and quickly divorced more often married at or after three years.